Mistakes I've Seen in Parenting

I heard a parent tell me they wanted to make sure their teen had the freedom to choose for themselves.  It's a seductive idea.  Teens are becoming independent and want to test their limits and try new things. What better way to let them grow than making their own choices.

I believe the teen years are the time when teens need the most involvement from parents.  They need clear lines and firm expectations as well as consequences.  This is a time when parents need to be at their most aware but, sadly, too many step back and expect their teens to navigate the turbulent waters of young adulthood alone.

Imagine a time when you were at your most vulnerable.  These were the times when we needed guidance the most.  I believe we make a mistake when we step back from our kids and their parenting in an effort to give them "freedom". 

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